BGR Talk @ Church

well, yesterday at church, pastor talked about boy girl relationship/sexual relationship.
here's the big question: "is having sex before marriage a sin?"
well, to my surprise, especially in the Christian context, it is not a sin but there are consequences.
God created man and woman and created earth for his pleasure.
so basically God wants us to have pleasure in our lives as well.
but it doesn't mean that you should go around and sleep around.
sex is a private thing, something you share between you and your partner.
if you go and sleep around then the sacred and most private thing about you is not private and sacred anymore.
there was a question raised asking about soul-ties.
it basically means, e.g. you've changed several boyfriends/girlfriends and you've slept with all of 'em and then you feel as if part of you is still with them? because when you have sex with them, part of your soul is like wrapped around theirs as well,and therefore it is called a soul-tie. it can possibly messed up a person too and caused that person to live in confusion for the rest of his/her lives.
that's because after the break up,the person is already so used to the partner and the intimacy that their soul longs for the same touch,the intimacy but they can't get it because they've already broken up and that leads to the confusion.
so therefore, sex before marriage is strongly not encouraged because it can ruined a person and unfortunately girls are the ones who usually suffer the consequences. e.g. getting pregnant.

i don't know about you guys but i very much agree on this.