when a girl falls for you, it's really hard for her to get over you. so please think carefully whether you really want the girl to be your girlfriend before you actually make advances towards her and make her fall for you. if you're not gonna be consistent about your actions, i'd say please stay away from the girl, because in the end it is the girl who suffers the most.
it's really selfish for a guy to make every girl in your circle of friends like you so that you can feel macho or manly or that you'd have 'choices' because of your ego. be sensitive and think of the girl's feelings as well please. like i said, if you're not planning to keep the girl as your girlfriend then don't make a girl fall for you by leading her on.
i've seen my girl friends suffer around me because of these kind of guys, and trust me, it's not a pretty sight. since i have also been one of the victims, i know EXACTLY how it feels to be rejected or ditched later by the guy. and i'm speaking about emotionally being ditched aside.
guys, grow up and be a man, go after a girl only when you've decided that you want to keep her forever in your life, don't make advances and then ditch us aside, we're not your toys to play with. we're humans with feelings as well. i know that nowadays, there are plenty of girls that make it so easy for you guys because they take on the dominant role and confess their feelings first, but if you really are a man, you will respect all girls and treat us nice whenever but don't cross the line if you don't want to keep us by your side, we're still happy to be your friend, just don't let our feelings get hurt and ditch us aside. once a girl gets too emotional, she is prone even to suicide.
speaking from experiences, i suffered a lot and even got into despression, i didn't know what to do, but luckily there are still friends that i can count on and also God who stayed by my side and comfort me, guiding me to move on. but for those who don't know about God, it's really hard for them and i actually have friends who took a really long time like a year to actually get over a guy she thought that would potentially be her boyfriend.
who is to say that nice guys finish last? nice guys are mostly taken. what about NICE girls who finish last? we are the nice girls and yet nobody notices, because there are other girls who makes it so easy for a guy to get without the guy having to put much effort in it. we, the nice girls, would like guys to put in effort to get us because we can then see the sincerity of your heart, so that we know you really want us, but nowadays, guys just go with whoever comes along and confesses to them, so then, what is gonna happen to us NICE girls? should we still wait around for our Mr. Right to come and sweep us off our feet? reason why we don't make the first move because this is not the tradition, back in the days, the guys are the one making the first move.
has society changed so much that we get left behind? are there any guys out there who believe that guys should be the one making the first move? i have had a guy friend coming up to me telling me that his ego was shattered because the girl made the first move and he's not used to that. are there any more of this kind of guys?
XOXO
Suey
